family matters

When I met the Unification movement the teaching about family really caught my heart. My family has always been at the centre of my life, yet I could see how much it fell short of what it might be if only…, and then there was always within me a dream of being part of a bigger family. It was not a dream I had articulated and consciously thought out, but it was there in my perceptions and feelings.

In our Lancaster Gate community church we have started to study and teach through a series. It means we keep the same topic for a few weeks in a row. The advantage this gives us is that it allows us to go deeper. It brings stability to our journey that we take together as a spiritual community.

In October we were looking at how God uses different relationships in the family to express his love for us, and how much of the time we miss this reality and miss what is an amazing opportunity to discover just how much family really does matter to God and to our lives.

here are a few of the ideas behind our family matters messages series:

(produced by Valgas Moore & Teresa Hayes)

I have embedded some bits of our services from Ustream that you can flick through.

The first week we looked at how God regards the family as so essential to His purposes that the first place he puts us when we are born is in a family.

So…The environment God wants to influence the most is your family. cuz that is the place where you are moulded, where most of the behavioural patterns for all your future relationships in life are largely determined. God is very interested in that fact and wants to help you to create patterns that work and behaviours that reflect His approach to relating.

As human history shows (and as we all know personally) bad habits, dysfunctional patterns, are hard to shift.

As we start out in life God hopes to relate to us through our parents. That is why the role of parents and the dignity with which they are treated in our community and society is so critical. When we are small our parents define our world, through their behaviour we get an idea of what is right and wrong, how love should be expressed, and how life should be lived.

In our second week we looked at marriage and we asked: “what does your spouse owe you?”

We all go into marriage with a bunch of different desires, hopes and dreams. But at some point many of these very healthy and legitimate desires turn into expectations, and that often kills any chance of real romance.

The conclusion we came to was that our marriage was not our idea first off. God loves you so much that He puts an actual person into your life who can emotionally, physically, and in every conceivable way be an expression of how intimately He cares for you. Do you look at your marriage in that way?

Acts of service and gratitude are signs of an unconditional marriage. And that list of what my spouse owes me – I need to throw it away; she owes me nothing.

The readings were from: Ephesians 5 and from  1Peter 5:5: “All of you, clothe yourselves with humility toward one another, because, “God opposes the proud but gives grace to the humble.” ”

In part 3 we reflected that to be a brother or sister is really about fine tuning your heart to love more. And when you become a person of faith your view on family changes. You become part of a spiritual family, and for me as a Unificationist that meant suddenly everyone became relevant whether they were far or near. Suddenly everyone matters. And I guess that is why living with faith is not an easy option. Your ability to care is always in a process of being challenged and grown.

We looked at 3 verses: 1 John 4:20-21 , Matthew 22:37-40 ,


And finally at our interfaith worship meeting, that we have on the last Sunday evening of each month, we had a profound message from a muslim friend of mine, Imam Mamadou Bocoum, who is a chaplain at Ford Prison: he starts his message about 38mins in – see and click below

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One Response to family matters

  1. Musood November 2, 2010 at 12:16 am #

    Its heart touching & so real. I have been enjoying my time @ Family Fireplace because I know I’m learning a lot of things & now I’m finding more love and care for people in my heart.
    these people are doing great work. I like the way Simon presents the teachings.

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