Life is interconnected especially when it comes to family relationships, so normally I don’t find it too helpful to separate things out, but sometimes it does help to bring clarity to my heart. I was sitting on the sofa with Chieko and wondering, if we were to take away (hypothetically of course) the children, the mission, our work, and all the little things we need to get done, until all that is left is her and me, then how are things going? Would we be friends? Are we friends? It is a funny thing when you seem to share everything in your life with another person, how it is possible to take the relationship for granted.
The old cliché that a marriage relationship is like a car that needs to be taken care of and serviced regularly is very true. I want to think how I can consistently take care of the friendship with my wife so that when all the things that currently keep us busy change, there is no dark void to freak us out, but rather just a new space in our life to explore together. Maybe I am realising that though God blessed us by bringing us together, he then gave us the responsibility to be creative with that precious and unique Blessing.